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Kamis, 10 Mei 2012

Hand Job Techniques


The following is a listing of techniques to try:

Pressure

With one hand, pull the shaft’s skin toward the base and wrap the fingers of this hand around the base to act as a cock ring. Using the other hand, rhythmically pick various points along the shaft of the penis and squeeze opposite sides of the penile shaft at these points, releasing pressure either immediately or after only a brief period of time.

Fire

Rub the penis between both palms, as if rubbing two sticks together to create fire. Be sure to use plenty of oil.

Glans Head Massage

Hold the penis in one hand with the head sticking up. Using the well-oiled palm of your other hand, slowly and sensitively massage the glans head. Reverse directions every once in a while.

Healing Stroke

With the penis resting on the man’s stomach, take one hand and cup the testicles. Then glide the heel of the palm of the other hand up and down the underside of the penis.

Twist and Shout

Pull the skin of the penis toward the base with one hand. With the other hand, corkscrew the penis. This can be done with the thumb and first finger or with your entire grip.

Anvil Stroke

Start with one hand lightly grasping the top of the penis. Then stroke the penis from the top, all the way to the bottom. When you hit the bottom, release the penis. Meanwhile, bring your other hand to the top of the penis and repeat.

Bookends

Place both of your hands side by side against his shaft like a pair of bookends. Now push hard against his penis. Then lift your hands up and down.

Doorknob

Turn the head of his penis like you’re trying to open an oily doorknob. Now try turning the other way. Repeat. This stroke is sometimes improved by using the other hand to stretch the skin of the penis toward the base.

Double Whammy

Bring your well lubricated hands down on his shaft. Some penises are so big they require both hands; if your partner’s doesn’t, then use the other hand to caress and lightly flutter his testicles, or tighten around the base of his shaft. If both hands fit along the length of the shaft then move them together, up and down, in the typical pumping motion. Pretend you’re holding a baseball bat and are about to score a grand slam. You can also vary the directions of your hands: one up, one down at the same time.

Milking

Start with one hand lightly grasping the bottom of the penis. Then stroke the penis from the bottom all the way to the top. When you hit the top, release the penis. Meanwhile, bring your other hand to the bottom of the penis and repeat.

Perpetual Penetration

Start with one hand lightly grasping the top of the penis. Then stroke the penis from the top all the way to the bottom, letting his penis “penetrate” into your fist on each stroke. Before the head of his penis pops out of your hand, bring the other hand up for the next penetration. This way it seems to him like he is penetrating deeper and deeper into an infinite vagina. Make sure you keep the penetration continuous.

Ring

Make a ring with your thumb and forefinger and pump up and down with it. When you get to the top close the ring. Then make him squeeze his way in as you slide back down to the bottom.

Shaft

Stroke only his shaft, ignoring his glans head. You will notice his glans head swelling and turning red. When it’s bright red, use Doorknob, Glans Head Massage, or Perpetual Penetration.

Shuttle Penis

Take the penis in both hands, fingers lightly touching the sides of the shaft. Now flick the penis back and forth between your two hands by holding onto the loose skin of the shaft. Do this stroke for a while to allow tension to build.

Spot Pinch

Lightly and slowly run a finger up the underside of his penis. Ask him to tell you where the most sensitive spot is. Pinch, squeeze, nibble and tease that spot.
*as always man does not equal penis and penis doesn’t equal man

Rabu, 09 Mei 2012

21 Tips to Release Self_Neglect and Love Your Self in Action


1. Begin your day with love (not technology). Remind yourself of your worthiness before getting out of bed. Breathe in love and breathe out love. Enfold yourself in light. Saturate your being in love.
2. Take time to mediate and journal. Spend time focusing inward daily. Begin with 5 minutes of meditation and 5 minutes of journaling each morning. Gradually increase this time.
3. Talk yourself happy. Use affirmations to train your mind to become more positive. Put a wrist band on your right wrist. When you’re participating in self-abuse of any form, move the band to your left wrist.
4. Get emotionally honest. Let of go of numbing your feelings. Shopping, eating, and drinking are examples of avoiding discomfort, sadness, and pain. Mindfully breathe your way through your feelings and emotions.
5. Expand your interests. Try something new. Learn a language. Go places you’ve never been. Do things you haven’t done before. You have a right to an awesome life.
6. Enjoy life enhancing activities. Find exercise you like. Discover healthy foods that are good for you. Turn off technology for a day and spend time doing things that make you feel alive.
7. Become willing to surrender. Breathe, relax, and let go. You can never see the whole picture. You don’t know what anything is for. Stop fighting against yourself by thinking and desiring people and events in your life should be different. Your plan may be different from your soul’s intentions.
8. Work on personal and spiritual development. Be willing to surrender and grow. Life is a journey. We are here to learn and love on a deeper level. Take penguin steps and life becomes difficult. One step at a time is enough to proceed forward.
9. Own your potential. Love yourself enough to believe in the limitless opportunities available to you. Take action and create a beautiful life for yourself.
10. Be patient with yourself. Let go of urgency and fear. Relax and transform striving into thriving. Trust in yourself, do good work, and the Universe will reward you.
11. Live in appreciation. Train your mind to be grateful. Appreciate your talents, beauty, and brilliance. Love your imperfectly perfect self.
12. Be guided by your intuition. All answers come from within. Look for signs and pay attention to your gut feelings. You’ll hear two inner voices when you need to make a decision. The quiet voice is your higher self; the loud voice is your ego. Always go with the quieter voice.
13. Do what honors and respects you. Don’t participate in activities that bring you down. Don’t allow toxic people in your life. Love everyone, but be discerning on who you allow into your life.
14. Accept uncertainty. Suffering comes from living in the pain of the past or the fear of the future. Put your attention on the present moment and be at peace.
15. Forgive yourself. Learn from your mistakes and go forward. Use this affirmation, “I forgive myself for judging myself for __________ (fill in the blank i.e.: for getting sick, for acting out, for not doing your best.)
16. Discover the power of fun. Self-love requires time to relax, play, and create face-to-face interaction with others. Our fast-paced world creates a goal setting, competitive craziness that doesn’t leave room for play. Dr. Stuart Brow says, “The opposite of play isn’t work, it is depression.”
17. Be real. Speak up and speak out. Allow yourself to be seen, known, and heard. Get comfortable with intimacy (in-to-me-see).
18. Focus on the positive. Go to your heart and dwell on and praise yourself for what you get right in all areas.
19. Become aware of self neglect and rejection. Become conscious of your choices. Ask yourself several times throughout the day, “Does this choice honor me?”
20. Imagine what your life would look like if you believed in your worth. Dedicate your life to loving you. Make it your main event.
21. Seek professional help. Self-rejection and neglect is painful. You deserve to be happy. You have a right to be accepted and loved. If necessary, seek help from a support group, counselor, or coach. It’s the best investment you can make.

Selasa, 08 Mei 2012

Discovering The Clitoris


My sex ed wasn’t as… damaging? Is that an alright word for it? Not as misinforming as some of the other stories here. But I remember being in elementary school, and fantasizing about Disney princesses at night sometimes and twisting my legs together because it felt good. I tried to stop later on, though, because I thought it was bad.
Then in middle school, I somehow discovered that nipples were awesome. So I started doing that under the sheets. For some reason the feeling of “I’m doing something wrong” was gone by then. My school does basic sex ed in fourth grade with a couple of puberty and menstruation videos. They actually asked us how a woman gets pregnant (myself and someone else guessed that maybe kissing did it), but I can’t remember if they explained it. I remember reading a book called “Baby Being Born” and being fascinated by the pictures, but grossed out by the bit where they described how Baby was actually started.
In eighth grade I discovered the-clitoris.com, and slowly all the jargon and mumblejumble about “Fallopian tubes” and whatnot started to make sense. Sex ed was a constant throughout middle school, but there was no time for questions. It was a couple of videos or a short chat about reproductive organs (focusing mainly on the internal bits) before moving on. I was so confused and freaked out by all the new information about this part of my body that I’d never had to acknowledge before that I didn’t really understand anything. I cried when I got my first period because I had been dreading it for so long and now it was finally here, and I couldn’t escape it. It meant I had changed and I wouldn’t be “normal” ever again.
But, with a plethora of feminist, sex-positive websites that I paged through— Scarleteen, Go Ask Alice, more of The-Clitoris—I started to understand what my vulva looked like. My body started to make more sense. And when I got the courage to start looking down there myself, I gradually became accustomed to what had been a very alien part of me.
The other thing my sex ed never addressed was “normalcy.” I didn’t know it was okay for labia minora to stick out. For a while I didn’t know that my vagina and urethra were two separate entities. And when I started getting into the nitty-gritty of actually touching myself— at first I didn’t even consider it. I was used to how it looked, but I sure as hell didn’t want to touch it.
But, somehow, that changed too. At first I was worried that my clit “didn’t work right,” because the more hetero-oriented pleasure sites kept saying how awesome the clit was. I didn’t get much sensation from it at all. Luckily, Betty Dodson’s website let me know that sometimes it takes a while for those 8,000 nerve endings to figure out what pleasure is.
And currently? I’m still a teenager, but I’m really comfortable with my body, and in my relationship with my partner. We experiment and we talk about it. And guess what? Recently my clitoris started “waking up.” And it’s awesome.
I guess that was a really rambling way of saying that the internet was my sex ed.

Minggu, 06 Mei 2012

Common Myths About Condoms


Myth #1: Condom use decreases one’s libido, causes impotence, and reduces or interferes with sexual pleasure.
Truth - There is no evidence to suggest that condom use causes impotence. Impotence has many causes, some physical and some emotional. Condoms themselves do not cause impotence.One may only experience problems with keeping an erection while wearing an UNLUBRICATED condom. Some couples may experience a decrease in sexual excitement while stopping to put on a condom, but seriously… wouldn’t you rather have safe sex than have to worry about the risk of pregnancy or an STD/STI?

Myth #2: Condoms can easily get lost in one’s vagina or uterus and can travel through the body, requiring surgery to get the condom out.
Truth - About 2% of condoms break or slip off completely during sex, primarily because they are used incorrectly. Holding the rim of the condom against the base of the penis when withdrawing after ejaculation can prevent the condom from slipping off and into the vagina. In the case that it does slip off, it will not go further than inside the vagina (no surgery needed). If at any point during sex, anyone notices the condom is broken/breaking or has slipped/is slipping, do not hesitate to bring it up! Discuss your options.

Myth #3: Condoms constrict an erect penis, causing premature ejaculation.
Truth - Using a condom does not cause premature ejaculation. Condoms can help users maintain an erection longer and prevent premature ejaculation.

Myth #4: Condoms encourage infidelity, promiscuity, or prostitution.
Truth - Evidence shows that condom use (or any other forms of contraception) does not affect sexual behavior. In fact, using contraception shows responsible behavior in order to avoid unintended pregnancy and STDs/STIs.

Myth #5: Condoms are not effective in preventing pregnancy or STDs/STIs, including HIV.
Truth - Condoms are the only contraceptive method that can protect against both pregnancy and STDs/STIs, including HIV transmission, when used for vaginal, oral, or anal sex. Condoms are most effective WHEN USED CORRECTLY. The risk of pregnancy or contracting STDs/STIs is greatest when condoms are not used correctly with every act of sex. Condoms do not have holes that HIV can pass through. When used consistently and correctly, condom use prevents 80% to 95% of HIV transmission that would have occurred without condoms.

Minggu, 15 April 2012

10 Tipe Wanita Berdasarkan Ukuran dan Bentuk Payudaranya di Dunia


Payudara adalah salah satu harta terbesar yang dimiliki oleh seorang wanita karena itu sedapat mungkin seorang wanita merawat dan melindunginya. Namun berdasarkan sebuah Survey, sifat, tipe dan kepribadian seorang wanita dapat dilihat berdasarkan bentuk Payudara yang dimilikinya. Ini bukan ramalan namun hanyalah sebuah Studi kasus berdasarkan bentuk payudara yang dimilikinya. Setidaknya ada 10 Bentuk payudara yang mewakili sifat wanita pada umumnya. Berikut 10 tipe wanita dilihat berdasarkan bentuk payudara-nya



1. PAYUDARA BESAR : 
Wanita pemilik payudara besar adalah wanita yang nggak suka dikekang kebebasannya, sehingga dia mendukung kebebasan dan kemandirian. mudah bagi wanita ini untuk memulai hubungan dengan pria, karena dia suka menyambut semua orangdengan hangat, ramah dan terbuka. Anda akan terlibat dalam percakapan akrab meski baru mengenalnya. Selain itu, dia juga punya pemikiran luas, rendah hati, dan baik hati, sedangkan falsafah hidupnya adalah kehidupan ini pendek. Tapi dia nggak segan memaafkan orang lain yang pernah melakukan kesalahan padanya. Wanita ini bercita-cita menikah dengan pria yang menghormati kebebasan serta suka gaya hidup aktif. Pria idolanya adalah pria yang bertanggung jawab, dan bersedia berbagi masalah bersama. 

2. PAYUDARA MONTOK : 
Wanita berpayudara montok nggak pernah tahan dengan ikatan serius. Terkadang dia nggak peduli dengan perasaan orang lain, tapi sebaliknya, jika wanita ini sudah terikat dalam perkimpoian, dia jadi suka merawat keluarganya termasuk memenuhi kebutuhan materi keluarga dan jujur pada suaminya. Dari luar wanita ini tampak seperti orang baik dan bertanggung jawab, namun di dalam hatinya emosinya meledak-ledak walau hanya menghadapi masalah sepele. Pria berbadan macho dan penurut adalah dambaan wanita berdada montok ini. 

3. PAYUDARA DATAR : 
Pemilik dada datar ini sangat menghargai kebebasan dan percaya pada teori individual. Wanita ini kerap mengalami pertentangan dengan diri sendiri atau orang namun wanita ini dengan mudah mampu mencari penyelesaian dari masalah yang dihadapinya. Wanita ini berbakat dibidang seni, seperti dekorasi interior, kerajinan tangan, masak, dan memelihara binatang. Pria yang cocok dengan wanita ini adalah pria yang sabar dan tidak banyak bicara. Sebab wanita ini lebih suka sedikit bicara dan banyak bekerja, meski keras kepala wanIta ini penuh kehangatan, cinta, dan bisa dipercaya. 

4. PAYUDARA NAIK KEATAS : 
Tipe wanita ini sangat mudah diatur, setia pada pasangannya, selalu waspada, dan menyukai orang yang bicaranya to thepoint. Wanita ini cenderung memilih pria yang sesuai kriterianya. Karena sekali dia jatuh cinta, maka dia akan setia pada pasangannya. bahkan dia tidak berkeberatan jika sang suami memintanya menjadi ibu rumah tangga dan merawat anak-anaknya di rumah. Pria ideal bagi wanita ini adalah pria yang punya rasa humor tinggi dan mempunyai kepribadian terbuka. Untuk memilih pasangan hidup, wanita ini tidak akan menilai dari harta, tapi latar belakang keluarga si lelaki. 

5. PAYUDARA KERUCUT : 
Kata gagal nggak pernah masuk kamus wanita berdada kerucut ini. Wanita ini hobi olahraga, baca buku untuk literatur dan seni, sehingga dia sangat bernafsu untuk mengadakan pertualangan demi menambah pengalamannya. Wanita ini cocok berteman dengan orang yang bisa memahami dirinya, karena dia memang mempunyai sifat alami egois dan bebas melakukan apa saja.

6. PAYUDARA AEROLAE LEBAR : 
Wanita yang mempunyai daerah aerolae lebar, cenderung bersifat maskulin alias tomboy. umumnya, sifat tomboy ini berangsur menghilang ketika wanta ini menginjak usia paruhbaya, dan dia rela berdandan feminim. Tapi wanita ini tidak menyukai tekanan atau kekangan dari orang lain. Sangat sulit baginya untuk menjadi rendah hati di hadapan orang lain, karena harga diri atau gengsinya yang tinggi. Dia suka membanding-bandingkan antara teman yang satu dengan yang lain. Pria yang cocok buat wanita ini adalah yang bisa dipercaya dan selalu berada di sisinya ketika susah dan senang. 

7. PAYUDARA MELEBAR : 
Sifat wanita ini periang dan mandiri. Sayangnya, wanita ini suka membual dan membesar-besarkan masalah. Lebih gilanya lagi, wanita ini mudah sekali marah, tidak suka dikekang tapi cepat menolong orang lain yang butuh pertolongan. Bisa saja wanita ini jujur dan berterusterang ketika mereka berurusan dengan hal yang menguras emosi. Meski wanita ini biasanya tidak hidup dalam kemewahan, tapi dia termasuk wanita yang hemat. Karena dia merasa bosan jika harus berada di samping pasangannya setiap saat, makanya dia suka menunjukkan kemandiriannya. Pada saat yang sama dia bisa bermuka dua. Pria yang menjadi anak pertama tidak cocok dengan wanita ini. Anak pertama mempunyai sifat suka mengatur. karena pernikahan baginya bukanlah hal yang menyenangkan. Anehnya, ketika dia terikat pernikahan dia akan berubah. 

8. PAYUDARA TURUN : 
Pemilik payudara ini sangat sensitif. Dia akan merasa dikhianati jika kekasihnya tidak menanggapi perhatian yang diberikannya melalui isyarat-isyarat tertentu. Selanjutnya dia akan menangis dan kehilangan kepercayaannya pada hubungan cintanya. Pola pikir wanita ini sangat polos dan tidak berpengalaman, karena itu kesadarannya akan seks muncul terlambat. Tapi jangan khawatir pengetahuan dan pengalaman seksnya akan mengalami kemajuan jika sudah menikah nanti. Dalam rumah tangga, wanita ini adalah pencerah suasana karena sifat alaminya yang baik hati, terutama dalam menyambut suaminya setelah bekerja. Pria yang menjadi pilihan wanita ini adalah pria yang pemberani dan teguh dalam pendirian. 

9. PAYUDARA BENTUK BEL : 
Wanita pemilik payudara yang bentuknya mirip bel adalah orang yang suka berpikiran praktis dan jujur. Kelemahannya adalah pelupa dan nggak rajin bekerja. Dia berusaha dengan keras berbicara dan bertempur dengan perasaan sendiri jika ada sesuatu yang membuat mereka marah. Ini yang membuat orang berpikiran kalau dia adalah orang yang suka histeris hanya karena alasan sepele. Daya tariknya misterius, mampu menarik pria tapi mampu membahagiakan pria tersebut. 

10. PAYUDARA KECIL : 
Wanita ini tidak pernah bisa menolak permintaan orang lain. Sifatnya yang terbuka, mampu memahami orang lain, dan sabar, membuat wanita ini dikenal sebagai orang baik hati dan penolong. Mungkin kebaikan ini muncul karena dia suka mencampuri urusan orang lain. Wanita ini bercita-cita menjadi ibu rumah tangga yang bijak bagi anak-anaknya. Pasangan yang cocok bagi wanita ini adalah pria yang punya pekerjaan tetap. Karena wanita ini nggak tahan menghadapi stress berkepanjangan. Jika mengalami stress dia akan dengan mudah terkena penyakit.

Sex Positions

..POSISI SEX MENENTUKAN PRESTASI SEX ANDA..
nikmati posisi sex yang tepat buat anda.., karena kenikmatan sex itu juga ditentukan oleh posisi..
berikut adalah beberapa posisi sex buat anda:


















Selasa, 14 Februari 2012

The Truth


هناك عدة أسباب لماذا الإسلام هو دين جاهل وغبي، وهذا هو:أولا. مبدأ تعدد الزوجاتوكيف يمكن أن يتم تعدد الزوجات في القانون الديني؟سؤالي: "أن تتزوج أكثر من 2 أو 3 وهكذا ينبغي أن مثل طعم، وأثارت اهتمامي؟"السؤال التالي: "إذا كنت تحب، ويسمى المهتمة ومتحمس عندما تزوج ما الغش أو غير مخلص للقيام بهذا الدور؟ ..!"السؤال التالي: "كان محمد يدرس الغش؟"وكان أساس نبي الإسلام "رغبة قوية"!يبدو من المرجح أن مفاهيم من فيروس نقص المناعة البشرية / الإيدز هو للمسلمين.حافظ على الكلمات "قد يتزوج أكثر من مرة واحدة ما دامت عادلة"، وهو شيء غبي.كيف يمكن لزوجها أن تكون عادلة عن زوجته الشابة هي أكثر جمالا من زوجته القديمة التي لديها تجاعيد ..!
الثانية. الإرهاب - فهم للموت من أجل الجهاد ضد أعداء الإسلام؟من الواضح نسخة الإرهابية القتلى من هذا الجهاد هو أمر غبي. والسبب هو أن تنظيم القاعدة أو زعيم الإرهابية الأخرى التي قد أخطأ وخطأ فادح وتحمل اسم الله.غبي أليس كذلك؟؟ يفعلون لجمع التبرعات لعملية السطو. انهم يقتلون الأبرياء، بما في ذلك إخوانهم من الإسلام في الإرهاب. الإسلام هو مجنون حقا.
ثالث. تحريم لحم الخنزير؟!وقد طلبت بعض الناس لماذا يحرم الإسلام الخنزير. انهم لا يفهمون لماذا. هناك عدد قليل من أصدقائي يقولون "انها لا تزال قابلة للنقاش".الإسلام الأساسية غبي.
رابع. قد يكون الطلاق والزواج التنبول؟ حظر المغازلة، نكاح المباشر.هذا هو ما يجعل الكثير من نسبة الطلاق. الزواج يصبح لعبة. بدلا من اللعب مع دينهم من الإسلام.العديد من القيام بذلك حتى في عقد الزواج.كيف يمكن أن يحدث في الزواج لعدم وجود إدخال / التي يرجع تاريخها؟ لا يتناسب والتي يمكن بسهولة مطلقة!في الواقع، الإسلام هو دين أحمق.
خامس. مكة المكرمة - الأرض المقدسة؟ إلزامي؟وهذا هو السبب وراء والحكومة تعطي الفوائد التي تعود على العرب. يحصلون على دخل من السياحة. يجب أن يكون هم الهدوء، وهو يبتسم ويضحك لرؤية غباء من الناس الذين يشعرون بأنهم مجبرون على الحضور إلى مكة المكرمة.معظم الناس مسلم لا يفهمون انه من كل ثروة السياسي والدولة. ننظر في هذا البلد، لن يكون فقيرا.بعض المسلمين / الإسلام لا تعرف الكذب كثيرا في الأراضي المقدسة من مكة المكرمة، من بين أمور أخرى: لا يوجد شيء من هذا القبيل زمزم المياه (آبار جافة). إذا تم التحقق من بشهادة م علي (الجنرال السابق سورابايا ف بي آي) أن في واقع الأمر أنه كان مسلم، واحد من سلالة النبي والمعالج او شبح يظهر على شاشة التلفزيون العقل المدبر لاندونيسيا.تاب. انه يجعل من أن يحدث الكثير من جهل للإسلام.
وهذه النقطة هي معينة، والإسلام هو غبي!غبي كما هو الحال مع الكلب والخنزير الإسلام!

Rabu, 01 Februari 2012

WHY CIRCUMCISING BOYS IS WRONG



1. Aesthetics


Everyone is entitled to make their own aesthetic judgments about the human body.  No particular body-type is intrinsically more beautiful than another, despite the canons of beauty going back to the Ancient Greeks and beyond; and although there is a general preference in our society for the young, the muscular, the slim and the healthy-looking, many people are genuinely more stimulated by older, skinnier or fatter bodies.  So anyone who finds a circumcised penis more or less attractive than the alternative is expressing a purely subjective point of view which can make no claims to universal validity.  To express my own subjective view on the matter, I find that very often an erect circumcised penis can have a phallic presence and beauty which is enhanced by the absence of foreskin, but that far more often a penis which has been circumcised is also marred by an ugly scar, whether it is erect or in repose.  By the same token, although I prefer uncircumcised penises in general, a foreskin is not necessarily beautiful, if (to my eyes) it is too long, too thick, too wrinkled, too loose, too tight or in some other way different from my ideal.  Any alteration of the body can be seen either as an enhancement or as a mutilation, and again there is no general rule: some tattoos are beautiful, some ugly; the same goes for piercings.  A piercing of the penis or the nipple can be a delightful decoration which draws erotic attention to the body-part in question; a tattoo can please the eye and increase the pleasure we take in looking.  Both can also distract and detract from the body’s original beauty.  Just as we can find a mole or a birthmark appealing or repulsive, or jewellery well-chosen or regrettable, or that the colour of a tie goes well with someone’s eyes – and the same case can inspire opposite reactions in different people – we should find no difficulty in saying that circumcision ‘suits’ some people and not others.  In itself it is neither beautiful nor ugly.



I have heard infant circumcision justified (at least, when the father is circumcised) on the grounds that “every boy wants to be like his father”.  At some level there is some truth in this: I deeply respect the memory of my father’s integrity, gentleness and generosity, and I wish I could be more like him in those respects.  But I’d rather I hadn’t inherited his baldness, and I don’t suppose his professional and sexual life would have been appropriate for me.  And suppose he’d been born with a finger missing?  Would that have justified his having one of mine removed shortly after birth, so that I could be more like him?  The assertion that boys want to be like their fathers, at least as far as circumcision is concerned, is no argument at all.  What it really amounts to is this: “boys want to be like their fathers in some respects, so I will choose for him that he shall be like me in this particular physical respect”.



2. Hygiene and health



There are several parts of the body which produce secretions, or which play a role in ingestion and excretion, and which it is advisable to clean regularly: the mouth, the anus, the ears, the nose, under the fingernails, etc.  The penis falls into this category.  Yet it is the only part where a surgical amputation is advocated on the grounds of hygiene.  No doubt a surgical procedure could be devised which would remove all need for regular cleaning of the ears, perhaps amputating the outer ears and inserting a plastic tube to replace the ear canal, but nobody seriously suggests it.  It was not uncommon well into the twentieth century for people to have all their teeth removed in preference to suffering dental troubles (although I gather it is as much work keeping false teeth clean as real ones), but with better tooth-brushing and diet this practice has become obsolete.  There is no justification in the argument that part of the body should be cut off for reasons of hygiene, when that part of the body can perfectly well be kept clean without removing it.



Advocates of circumcision also argue that women who have unprotected penetrative sex with uncircumcised men are more likely to suffer from cancer of the cervix, or to be contaminated with HIV.  Supposing this to be so (and I have no idea if the statistics are reliable, or even – if they are – what the degree of increased risk amounts to), there are at least three solutions which fall short of surgical intervention, and which are implied in the previous sentence: avoiding penetrative sex, avoiding unprotected sex and avoiding sex with uncircumcised men (for surely everyone is entitled to decide who to have sex with, and free to choose the criteria on which they base that choice).  Against this should be weighed the health risks involved in circumcision: the number of deaths resulting from the operation, or complications leading to the amputation of the glans or the whole penis – although, again, I have no precise statistics to hand.



3. Sexual pleasure



It is a commonplace assumption that the uncircumcised penis is more sensitive, and that uncircumcised men therefore enjoy greater sexual pleasure.  But no one suggests that the circumcised derive no pleasure from sex, nor that the uncircumcised always find it intensely fulfilling; there are so many other factors involved in the pleasure of sex that any such suggestion would be absurd.  The circumcised penis remains highly sensitive (I recall Dustin Hoffman, in a TV interview, saying, “How could it be any more sensitive?  If it was any more sensitive I’d have a heart attack!”), and the possession of a foreskin is no guarantee of an ability to derive the fullest possible pleasure from it.  However, the foreskin is richly supplied with blood vessels and nerve endings, which are removed by circumcision, and there can be no doubt that if we were to compare the same person in a circumcised and uncircumcised state, there would be a large part of sensory stimulation which is no longer possible when the foreskin has gone.  So how do we account for the statements of men who have been circumcised in adulthood, and who testify to a greater degree of sexual pleasure afterwards?  One such account (see Artofmalemasturbation.tumblr.com) states that a greater degree of sensory stimulation is derived from the fact that during penetration the glans remains in contact with the partner’s body during both insertion and withdrawal, whereas when uncircumcised the foreskin comes forward to cover the glans during the withdrawal phase of penetration. [For this claim and other arguments, see http://artofmalemasturbation.tumblr.com/circumcision —Ed.)  There is no reason to doubt this, but it is clearly something which that person finds more stimulating and which another might not.  We might compare this with the use of condoms: some men find it almost impossible to enjoy sex with a condom, some find it makes no difference, whilst still others find the condom itself exciting in a sensory and fetishistic way.  Stimulation is bound up with other elements – aesthetic, psychological and emotional – and in this case it is obvious that the man is happy with his newly-circumcised penis and finds a greater joy in everything he does with it than he did before.  Such evidence fully justifies the right of every man who wants to get circumcised to do so, but it obviously has no bearing on whether or not all men should be circumcised even if they don’t want to be.  Different people get sexual pleasure from different things; just as I have the right to do whatever gives me pleasure, I have no right whatsoever to impose it on anyone else.



4. Trivialisation



People who argue in favour of circumcision have a tendency to minimise the seriousness of the operation, for example by saying “It’s only skin” (I have heard this from several different people) or by drawing a contrast with practices of female genital mutilation which they claim to be in an entirely different category, because they are so much more drastic.  Both these claims bear examination.  First, supposing the foreskin is “only skin”, does this mean that removing it is a trivial, even benign act?  The skin is often considered one of the organs of the body and is a complex structure containing nerves, blood vessels, secretory glands and so on.  I would not regard the removal of part of my skin with a knife (i.e. the dermis and epidermis, not just the dead layer that peels off if I get too much sun) as something trivial – it would be painful, would take a long time to heal, and would leave a permanent scar.  Describing the foreskin as “only skin” is a denial of the reality that skin is something sensitive, tender and important – and of all the skin of the human body, the foreskin is amongst the most tender.  And then, what of the claim that male circumcision is insignificant in comparison with what is done to some girls?  There are several different forms of female genital mutilation, of which the most extreme – consisting in cutting out the clitoris, removing the major and minor labia and stitching up the orifice – is a barbaric, brutal and heinous form of violence.  There are also practices, however, which are not that much different from male circumcision in that they involve removing only part of the outer labia (which are, after all, “only skin”).  Even if we were to accept that these procedures constitute a greater assault on the physical integrity of the person than male circumcision, the difference remains one of degree, not of kind: a permanent, unnecessary alteration is made to the most intimate part of a person’s body in a way which causes physical and psychological trauma.



Most circumcised men do not indicate that they are traumatised by their circumcision.  We have to discount from this the overwhelming majority of those who are from Jewish, Christian or non-observant families in Europe and North America, since they were circumcised at an age which makes conscious memory of the trauma impossible (eight days old in the Jewish tradition).  It is important to look at the accounts of Muslims, who in most cases were circumcised at anything between four years old and the onset of puberty, and thus can perfectly well remember the experience.  The majority remember the enormous physical pain clearly (sometimes describing it as the most intense they have ever experienced), but indicate no psychological trauma.  Does this mean they were in fact not traumatised?  The human mind has a huge capacity for integrating trauma, particularly when what is being suffered is wholeheartedly approved of by absolutely everyone in the family and cultural circle; when it has been endured by all those who are older, respected and admired; and when its stoical endurance is viewed as a sign of strength and maturity (qualities to which most boys aspire), as well as being a passport to social acceptance.  One could compare this with the regime that flourished in the British public schools until very recently, where bullying, ritualised physical violence and sexual abuse were the norm.  Most men who attended one of these schools show no signs of being traumatised by it, yet if you were to take a boy with no personal or cultural experience of flogging and fagging and put him in a situation where he was subjected to both, the results would no doubt be devastating.  (Similar, though different observations could be made about life in the army and in prison.)  So imagine taking a boy from a non-religious family with no tradition of circumcision and doing to him what is done to most Muslim boys (without the party, presents and social support) and consider what the effects would be likely to be.  Some might survive relatively unscathed, but others would be scarred (literally and figuratively) for life.  Certainly no one could justify doing such a thing routinely.



5. Religion and symbolism



Jews are circumcised as the sign of God’s covenant (a kind of contract) with Abraham: Abraham agreed to serve God alone, and for his part God promised Abraham many descendants who would have a land of their own.  God singled out Abraham and his descendants for this favourable treatment, which is why they are referred to as the Chosen People.  During the Israelites’ wanderings in the wilderness and leading up to the conquest of Canaan under Joshua, the practice of circumcision was apparently neglected and a generation of warriors died in battle.  Before attacking Jericho, Joshua had all the surviving Israelite warriors circumcised, and the Bible attributes their success in part to this new respect for the covenant.  The history of Israel is one of constant conflict between the tendency to observe the monotheistic, non-idolatrous worship enjoined by the covenant and an equally strong – often stronger – desire to go back to the worship of fertility gods in sacred groves and on hilltops.  The worship of such gods often involved child sacrifice.  One interpretation of circumcision is that it was a symbolic substitute for child sacrifice.  Clearly, removing part of the body is a sacrifice, symbolic or not.  Medieval Christian theology echoes this by referring to the circumcision of Jesus as a foreshadowing of the Crucifixion, as it was the first time Jesus shed his blood for mankind.  Circumcision can also be seen as a symbolic castration: part of the sex organ really is cut off, but it is symbolic in that the generative function is not impaired as it would be in the case of actual castration.  For Jews, then, circumcision represents the observance and sign of a contract with God in which they are his special people, and by which they make a symbolic sacrifice to him rather than sacrificing the lives of their children as they did before (and as God commanded Abraham himself to do, as a test of his faithfulness).



After thousands of years most of the Bible’s commandments (there are 630 in all) have been progressively put aside or reinterpreted.  For example, all the commandments about performing animal sacrifices in the Temple are now interpreted on a spiritual level: a Jew who prays and studies the scriptures is considered to be righteous as if he had performed the actual sacrifices (or rather, as if he had paid a priest to perform them on his behalf).  Laws about Sabbath observance have largely been reinterpreted too (although they remain a source of debate between orthodox and liberal Jews): you are not supposed to cook on the Sabbath, but using a time switch so that the cooker comes on automatically is acceptable; driving is forbidden, so orthodox synagogues’ car parks, if they have them, are empty on Saturdays, but the faithful may well have parked round the corner; and hardly anyone nowadays would consider that a Jew deserved to die for picking up a few sticks on a Saturday, as happens in the Bible.  The first Christians, who were all Jews, decided quite early on that all the laws should be interpreted symbolically, including those regarding food prohibitions and circumcision (St Paul says “circumcision is nothing; neither is uncircumcision”).  Jews nowadays have varying relationships with the kosher food laws – some keep them strictly, some not at all, and most keep some of them – but the law about circumcision is still universally practised by all Jews, even the most liberal.  Jewish attitudes to divorce and the family have evolved; a Jew is presumably neither more nor less likely to commit adultery, theft or murder than a member of any other religion.  Why, then, this atavistic attachment to one particular law among all the others?



Jews, of course, are not the only descendants of Abraham, there are the Arabs as well – and, more broadly, Muslims, most of whom worldwide are not Arabs (just as many Arabs are not Muslims).  Muslims accept the Bible as authoritative, and its prophets, including Abraham, Moses, Joshua and Jesus, as authentic, but less so than the last definitive revelation of the Qur’an through the prophet Muhammad.  Islamic practice is supposed to be based on the Qur’an and on subsequent legal traditions.  There is no mention of circumcision in the Qur’an, and other texts indicate that is it desirable but not obligatory, so its practice among Muslims is based on the Abrahamic covenant even though it is not considered binding in other respects.  In fact, like certain other practices (including veneration of the Ka’aba), it is a survival of earlier tribal traditions.  Many tribes all over the world still practice various forms of genital mutilation, for example Aborigines in Australia, who have a tradition not only of circumcision but also of subincision, where the underside of the penis is slit along the urethra.  As far as I know no one advocates that this procedure should be undertaken regularly on infant males in Europe and North America.



6. Ethics



There is an ethical argument as to whether it is justified to bring children up in a particular faith; but it cannot get very far, since it is impossible to educate children not to believe anything at all, whether it be science or scientology, rationalism or Rastafarianism.  However there is a strong consensus that adults have the right to choose for themselves whether to remain in the faith they were brought up in, or to choose another, or to abandon faith altogether.  Most of us would agree with the basic principle that no one should be obliged to do anything against their will, except for the greater good (however we define it), and that if we believe in liberty we must believe in the notion of consent, i.e. that I cannot require you to do anything I want unless you understand as fully as possible what it is I want you to do and what its implications are, and unless you freely consent to it.  This principle fully explains, for instance, the definition of rape and sexual abuse.



The ethical question about circumcision derives from the fact that it is generally practised on infants who are in no position to give their consent, or on young children whose ‘consent’ is not free (in that it is socially constrained) or fully informed.  It is also irreversible.  No one would accept any other unnecessary surgical procedure on a child which results in permanent modification of the person’s body and (arguably) permanent, even if repressed, psychological trauma.



There is of course absolutely no ethical problem with an adult deciding to do whatever he wishes with his own body: getting circumcised, pierced, tattooed or even amputated.  This applies to everyone: if an adult woman should decide that she would like to undergo a clitoridectomy or an infibulation, she ought to be free to do so (although if she was a friend of mine I would feel sorry for her).  The argument that ‘I like this for myself, so it is better for everyone’ is as weak and easily-dismissed as in any other sphere.  I like Shakespeare, and I like talking to people who have read Shakespeare; but I have no right to make anyone read Shakespeare, indeed I’m happy to accept that some people shouldn’t read Shakespeare as they wouldn’t enjoy it.  Likewise if I like being un/circumcised, and/or prefer to have sex with people who are un/circumcised, that gives me no right to impose my preference on anyone else, particularly not on a child who has yet to begin sexual activity and over whose body I have the authority which amounts to a duty of care.  If I fervently believe that my child will be happier and better believing (or not believing) in God, I can raise him/her to do so, but I cannot force that belief to continue into adulthood.  If I fervently believe that my child will be better and happier (or more beautiful) by being circumcised, however, I have no right to impose that belief on him before he is old and informed enough to make the choice for himself, since if I make it for him there is no going back.  Circumcising infants and young boys is unjustifiable, immoral and uncivilised.